The Pain of Christmas
The carols and decorations, feasting and gift-giving can add to our joy and celebration of Christmas. However, for those who are hurting or grieving, these activities can underscore the pain. This is especially true for people who are facing their first Christmas without a loved one. Below are some suggestions for those who may need to express feelings of sadness or solitude during this season of Advent and Christmas.
It is acceptable to let your real emotions surface. Have plenty of tissues on hand because tears may come at any time. Understand that heartaches may appear as you unpack decorations or prepare for this time. Also allow yourself to take joy in the good memories that come.
Be with people who can support you by not expecting you to put on a happy face.
Recall old traditions and create new ones. Decorate the tree, place a wreath on the grave, or do any other tradition that feels right for you and your family.
Take care of yourself. Eat healthy foods, avoiding excess alcohol because it can depress moods and adversely affect the grieving process. Soak up natural light – open the blinds or go outdoors. Find enjoyable ways to get daily activity. Be gentle with yourself and avoid over-extending yourself.
Get yourself a big teddy bear to hug and talk to.
Contact a Minister, thoughtful friend or seek professional help if your sadness is more than you can bear.